Love is not the answer! It is not the solution to all life’s problems. Rather it is where you go to when the answer is found, when the problem is finally solved. Love is the state of being that underlies the mind’s struggle. It is bliss; it is home; it is Self, it is where you rest – when, at last, you can let yourself rest!
Love is not the answer; it is the reason we look for answers. It is the destination, the reward, the safety, security. To relax in a state of love, that feeling of all rightness, is what we are fighting for, struggling for, saving for, at times even hoarding for.
Doing and Being
In order to solve our problems, we need our mind, our will and, of course, our actions. We need to think about things, plan ahead, take care of the future. We need to get up, suit up and show up. We need to pay the bills and the taxes. We need to render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s. If we neglect these things, if we rely only on love to supply the answer, the problems of our lives are going to multiply until they reach the point where the only way we can stay in the energy of love is with the oblivion and denial of alcohol and/or drugs.
We all have to struggle in one way or another; it is a law of existence. We have to go to school. We have to work. We even have to scheme. We have to do what we have to do in order to survive. However, we must not let ourselves lose sight of what we are struggling for. For survival, even material success, even fame is not enough. Sure, we have to create the conditions of safety and security for ourselves, but we also have to keep conscious of what we are creating these conditions for – which is to let ourselves relax, relax into love.
Old World War II movies always portrayed soldiers with pinups of Betty Grable over their bunks to remind them of the life they were fighting for, a small town life, a backyard life, little sister, mom’s apple pie, high school and baseball, just being kids. But these things that reminded them of home, were really reminders of everything home stood for, the safety of being cared for by a caring world, the lost ability to relax – into love.
Increasingly, we have become like soldiers who have lost track of what they are fighting for, who have lost the memory of home, who are just fighting on automatically, unconsciously – so without a goal, an ultimate meaning, that at the end of the day, when the enemy is vanquished, there is no peace to come home to and the only choice is to re-enlist in and find another enemy to fight.
So, struggle is not the answer, but neither is love. We must tend to business, but not let business be the business of our lives. On the other hand, we must relax into love, but not stay there religiously, not rely upon it. A balance has to be struck, a balance between struggle and love, between what we have to do to allow ourselves to relax into love, and that relaxation itself.